Our greatest potential as humans is met in the incorporation and balance of our internal Divine Masculine and Feminine energies. Equally inherent to both men and women, our behaviors, thought-patterns and tendencies dictate the balance of the complementing energies.
We each carry a complex psychological and emotional makeup of past experiences, learned behavior and self-discovery contributing to one’s internal wellbeing and external reality. This can cause one or both energies to be out of balance, stagnant, oppressed, confused, or disrespected in some manner. Often times, self-imposed thoughts of inadequacy, self-loathing, or doubt tend to be the greatest perpetrator of imbalance in the masculine and feminine energies.
The Divine Masculine represents a spiritual, psychological and archetypal ideal of masculine energy. It is the highest, most inspiring and truest expression of masculinity that is manifested through thoughts, actions and beliefs.
The common misconception is that divine masculine is inherent to the male population. However, all of mankind has intrinsic Divine Masculine characteristics, such as logic, rationality, strength and leadership. These aspects of human personality or behaviors are deemed masculine, and depending on their expression through an individual, they can be balanced or imbalanced. Is one rational at the expense of a lack of emotional maturity? Is one’s strength overpowering, overbearing, or ego-driven? These are signs that the masculine energy is imbalanced.
A healthy representation of the Divine Masculine is witnessed through a person who is strong, but gentle. He has an appropriate action of guidance and leadership without the need of praise or ego-stroking. He turns away from greed and conflict, and instead stays in a space of honor, honesty and diplomacy. He is confident but not arrogant, and adventurous but not reckless. He is someone you want to follow and makes you feel safe, supported and protected either physically, emotionally, or spiritually.
The Divine Feminine is the manifestation of the purest form of feminine expression. Because of the patriarchal system that has developed throughout time, the Divine Feminine has been degraded, looked down upon and oppressed. But as time passes and human evolution marches forward, there has been a rekindling in the need for devotion and commitment to the Divine Feminine. A balance of both inherent energies will be necessary to continue progress. And now, all men and women alike are called to empower the Divine Feminine.
A healthy representation of the Divine Feminine is kind, generous, wise and supportive. With the continued growth of mankind dependent on the health of its women, the Divine Feminine represents the ultimate mother–fertile, intuitive, patient, nurturing and healing. She is the representation of growth, not just in a physical way, but also emotionally and spiritually. We all birth something – an idea, a friendship, a business plan, a family – and it is the Divine Feminine within us all that brings it into full fruition.
EXERCISES TO STRENGTHEN ARCHETYPES + FIND BALANCE
Gender, that is, genitals or body, and archetypal energies are not the same thing. We all have the Divine Masculine and Feminine within our psyche. How they come out in our thoughts and behaviors are indicative of their strength, and often shapes our personalities.
With ongoing and consistent self-awareness of your tendencies, weaker or stronger aspects are brought more into balance. Please remember that it is normal human behavior to be naturally stronger in some aspects and weaker in others. The goal is not to be in perfect balance all the time or to master all positive aspects of each energy – that is not always appropriate. There are times in life where it is necessary to be less flexible or more emotional. Honor where you are and work towards first finding an understanding why you react, think and behave the way you do, and then make applicable changes to move into more balance.
Here are ways to find balance:
Commit to meditation!
Sit every morning for 5-10 minutes, focus on your breath, inhaling to a count of 6, and exhaling to a count of 6.
Inhale, “I am strong.”
Exhale, “I am flexible.”
Inhale, “I am balanced.”
Exhale, “I am strong.”
Inhale, “I am flexible.”
Exhale, “I am balanced.”
Continue this cycle for as long as you need to get settled and slow the mind. Some days that may be the entire meditation, other days you may be feel rooted and calm much more quickly. Stay with it. And throughout the day when you feel out of balance, do this quick breath exercise to get you back to a centered space.
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